Chapter 2 of I AM THAT GIRL by Alexis Jones is entitled Be First. And no, I don’t mean be first by crossing the finish line in a race kind of first. This chapter focuses is putting yourself first, but in a positive way. Making sure you’re taking care of yourself first before helping and taking care of others. You can’t take care of others if you’re not taking care of yourself; you can’t be as effective. This is something I struggle with, I remind myself of this daily now and this chapter really opened my eyes. Hopefully it can do the same for you. I hope you enjoy the quotes that I found moving and can incorporate her ideas of putting yourself first in your happy and healthy adventure. 🙂 ❤
“When being selfless becomes so automatic that your first instinct is to think of others first and you second, you’ve lost grasp of who you are and what you need” (32).
“Don’t be afraid to be yourself–the best version of yourself you can be” (Julie Shannan, 35).
“Paying yourself first will help you build or maintain your foundation, it will remind you who’s your first priority (hint: it’s you!), and will put a spring in your step” (35).
“No one is going to make your happy or create a fulfilling life for you” (36).
“Get into the habit of listening to your own changing needs and wants and learning how to deliver them” (36).
“Add to your personal manifesto a reminder to be true to you each and every day” (38). *Sidenote: there’s an example of a personal manifesto just before chapter 1 in the book, you can use this one and edit it to make it more personal for you.
“The goal for all of us is to learn how to best take care of ourselves, to set achievable goals, to have realistic expectations and boundaries that you honor and that those in your life are expected to honor as well” (38).
“Your primary obligation–to yourself, your colleagues, your friends, and your family–is to take care of your own needs first in order to be most useful and valuable to others” (Gina Rudan, 43).
“That means spending time on your own edification and growth before you do a single other thing in your day. So in others words, you don’t reach for your smartphone first or dive into email before you focus on yourself” (Gina Rudan, 43).
“Your time is important, your energy is finite, and your attention is precious, so value who and where you spend it accordingly” (45).
“Perfection is: you, as you are, with all of your mistakes, failures, freckles in weird places, and beliefs you had that simply didn’t work out the way you thought they would” (Rebekah Iliff, 49).
“Fall in love with you. Love, support, validate, and nourish a relationship with yourself. Give yourself what so many of us are trying to get from others and just watch how much the world steps up to support you” (51).
“Living your best life requires frequent and vigorous physical activity–there’s no way around it. And getting the activity you need requires commitment, especially on those mornings when you want to hit “snooze” and sleep in” (57).
“Feeling good takes serious effort” (57).
“It’s important to find your own rhythm and the bag of tricks that works for you. But whatever activities you choose, set a daily routine that gets your body moving and challenges you. Fight your snooze button and make the choice to give yourself the gift of health, every single day” (59).
“When we are full to the brim with unconditional loves for ourselves, then we can pour out love, support, inspiration, and focus on the other people in our life” (66).