Chapter 7: “The Brave and Brokenhearted”
This chapter is about how becoming brokenhearted began with a vulnerable act of bravery: love. It also talks about how love deals with many emotions, including disappointment, expectations, and resentment. I hope you enjoy the following quotes from the chapter and apply them to your happy and healthy adventure. 🙂 ❤
“Disappointment is unmet expectations, and the more significant the expectations, the more significant the disappointment. The way to address this is to be up-front about our expectations by taking the time to reality-check what we’re expecting and why.”
It’s good to have expectations, but not ones that are TOTALLY unrealistic. If you set unreasonable expectations for yourself or others, you’re bound to run into disappointment. Make sure you have smart expectations so you don’t experience disappointment all the time.
“Wholeheartedness requires being conscious of the litany of expectations that hum along below the surface so we can reality-check our thinking.”
Be as aware as possible so you can become as wholehearted as possible.
“…forgiveness is not forgetting or walking away from accountability or condoning a hurtful act; it’s the process of taking back and healing our lives so we can truly live.”
If you just forget or walk away from something negative that happened, you can’t learn and grow from it. It’s better to forgive, learn and lesson, and get back to living your life.
“Compassion: Recognizing the light and dark in our shared humanity, we commit to practicing lovingkindness with ourselves and others in the face of suffering.”
Acknowledge the good and the bad in your life and others lives so you can be compassionate to others, but especially to yourself.
“Empathy is the ability to understand what someone is experiencing and to reflect back that understanding.”
It’s important to know what empathy is and to practice it because it allows you to have more meaningful connections and relationships.
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin or your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”