Chapter 8: “The Corrective Experience”
This chapter explores thoughts you might have after a tough experience and provides a Bible passage in which another character in the story turns these thoughts on their head through her words.
These are the negative thoughts that might go through your head after a rough time:
“You are not known.
You don’t belong.
You aren’t important.
You are not valuable.
You are not secure.”
However, NONE of these are true. It’s just what might be going through your head or the other person’s head.
“No amount of outside achievement fixes inside hurts. Those hurts have to be soothed by replacing the lies with truth” (97).
Even if you experience greatness and achieve a lot after an incident that caused you a lot of pain, it can’t erase the pain or fix it. Pain can only be fixed with truth and God’s love.
“Let your past rejection experiences work for you instead of against you by allowing them to help you sense the possible pain behind other people’s reactions” (100).
Let your mistakes and failures help you and teach you lessons instead of drag you down and make you feel bad. It’s important to do this to relieve yourself of that pain but also to have compassion for others.
The Bible passage used in this chapter is of Nabal not giving David and his men food and recognition for tending his sheep. Abigail, Nabal’s husband, acknowledges David’s need for food and recognition with a speech that addresses all of the negative thoughts listed above and changes them from “not, don’t and aren’t” thoughts to “are” thoughts. It’s a great example of how we can change our thoughts that appear in our mind from past and present hurts into words that strengthen us.
I hope you enjoyed the following quotes and my thoughts on this chapter. Remember that you are known, that you belong, that you’re important, that you’re valuable, and that you are secure with God’s love on your happy and healthy adventure. 🙂 ❤